Monday, November 17, 2008

Prop 8

As a kid who has biracial parents, and several LGBT friends and family this struck a chord with me. The thought that even in 1967 MY fiance and I couldn't have gotten married. Where is this separation between Church and state? How are ones religious beliefs allowed to impact a decision that has nothing to do with morality and is all about what is fair.

Marriage isn't about having kids because if it were Crash and I wouldn't be allowed to be married because I can't have children.

Marriage isn't about religion because if it were Crash and I wouldn't be allowed to marry because I am Buddhist and he is Christian.

Marriage isn't about race because if it were Crash and I would not be able to be married because he is Irish and French and I am Black and Native American.

Marriage is about Love, so why is marriage between two non related persons illegal still?

If Crashes Father can't marry his boyfriend of 15 years, then Crash and I are not going to get married either. We have discussed it and the fact is it is just not fair.

Why? It's not because we don't want to, and its not because we are afraid of divorce, it is because we are angry that our friends whose love is just as real and just as deep and committed as ours can't do the same.

Everyday we learn new things about our fellow man, and everyday horrible things are put up to divide us, are we growing less intelligent and compassionate with each new thing we learn? Each barrier we knock down?

Plant a seed of compassion it doesn't matter if you understand or not. Marriage between people who are willing to love, honor and cherish each other is not your right to ban because it makes you uncomfortable, your personal beliefs should have no bearing on what is right and what is wrong.

The fact is with age comes wisdom and it doesn't take much intelligence to realize marriage between souls who come together with love in their hearts should be as legal as any other marriage.

KJ and Crash


1 comment:

teresa said...

Hooray, Lady! I am glad to hear from you and read about you.

This is an issue I've given a lot of thought to in the past few years. My fiance and I do wish to be married. Is it selfish of us to do so, while our GLBT brothers and sisters are not legally allowed to share the same rights? Even as I attend G/L weddings and honor their matrimonial vows with all the good thoughts and prayers I have within me, I acknowledge that their civil rights are not upheld by our nation and many corporations who have power over our lives. And yet, is it okay for me to be married? What if I really really want to, and we need the insurance and benefits? As a couple, we think about it. We talk and pray about it.

Our decision is to go ahead and get married. In Portland just a few years ago many of my gay friends and fellow congregants were married in the months that the window was open for them to do so. It happened all around the country. We too, will move forward and ask for our friends and family to support us in this great spiritual/financial/familial commitment. But at the wedding, we do plan to pause and publicly acknowledge our gratitude for the right to be legally married; we will ask for prayers and political action for all those present to stand with our GLTB brothers and sisters who do not have that right. I think it's the right thing to do.